"Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death." (2 Corinthians 7:10)
Paul had been greatly comforted by the arrival of Titus with news from Corinth. When he came to Macedonia, his body had no rest: conflicts on the outside, fears within. But God who comforts the downcast comforted him by the coming of Titus, and not only by his coming but by the comfort Titus had received from the Corinthians. Their longing for Paul, their deep sorrow, their ardent concern for him had filled him with even more joy. Even if his severe letter had caused them sorrow, he does not regret sending it. It produced repentance, and he is glad not because they were made sorry but because their sorrow led them to repentance.
Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. The distinction is one of the most pastorally important in Paul. Worldly sorrow is the sorrow of the person who is grieved at being caught, at losing face, at suffering consequences: it is focused on the self and its losses. Godly sorrow is focused on the harm done to God and to others, and it produces genuine change. The Catechism draws on this distinction in its treatment of contrition: perfect contrition, motivated by love of God and grief at having offended him, is distinct from imperfect contrition motivated by fear of punishment, and both can lead to sacramental reconciliation, but only the first transforms the heart at its root (CCC 1452).
The evidence of godly sorrow Paul sees in the Corinthians is complete: earnestness, eagerness to clear themselves, indignation, fear, longing, zeal, readiness to see justice done. In every way they have demonstrated their innocence in the matter. Titus had been refreshed in spirit by all of them. Paul has complete confidence in them. His joy in their response overflows in the joy of Titus, who has seen the obedience of the community and the welcome they gave him.
Brothers and sisters, when you have sinned, what kind of sorrow do you feel? The question is diagnostic. If the primary feeling is embarrassment at being known, or fear of consequences, that is worldly sorrow, which leads nowhere transformative. If the primary feeling is grief at the harm done to the relationship with God and with others, that is godly sorrow, which leads to repentance that leaves no regret. Take your sorrow to Confession and let it become the right kind.
Lord God, produce in us godly sorrow when we sin, the sorrow that leads to repentance and leaves no regret. Deliver us from the worldly sorrow that is only about ourselves. And let the joy of restoration be as real as the sorrow of the fall. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.